Your Busy Schedule Doesn't Disqualify You From Healing

The therapy container is the relationship, not the calendar

"I'd love to start therapy, but I can't commit to the same time every week."

I hear this a lot. And I want you to know: that's okay. You can still do this work.

There's a pervasive belief in therapy culture that structure means rigid scheduling: same day, same time, every single week. Many therapists emphasize this as essential to the therapeutic container, as if healing can only happen within strictly defined time boundaries.

But here's what I've come to understand: the container isn't the schedule. The container is the relationship.

Who Gets Left Out?

Let's be honest about who the "same time every week" requirement actually serves. It serves people with schedule control. People who can block off Tuesday at 3pm indefinitely because they set their own hours or have predictable 9-to-5 schedules with understanding employers.

It doesn't serve:

• People working multiple jobs to make rent

• Folks in industries with sporadic, on-call hours

• Parents coordinating childcare across unpredictable schedules

• Anyone hustling in gig economy work where flexibility means survival

When we treat rigid scheduling as the gold standard of "committed" therapy, we're not just setting a clinical boundary. We're creating a class barrier. We're saying healing is most accessible to people with the privilege of schedule stability.

What Actually Creates the Container

In my practice, the container is this: we agree on a rhythm that works for you (maybe weekly, maybe every two weeks) and we show up to that commitment as consistently as your life allows.

Some weeks we meet Tuesday at 10am. Other weeks it's Thursday at 7pm. What matters is that you're dedicating that time to the work, that we're maintaining relational continuity, that healing is happening in the space we create together.

The structure isn't about calendar consistency. It's about psychological safety, authentic presence, and the trust that builds between us over time. That container can hold your healing whether we meet at the same time every week or at different times that actually work with your reality.

What This Looks Like in Practice

Real flexibility means we work together to find a sustainable rhythm. Maybe you book a few weeks out at a time based on your work schedule. Maybe we keep a running list of your available days and I reach out when matching slots open up. Maybe we meet weekly for a month when things are intense, then shift to biweekly when life steadies.

The commitment isn't to a specific calendar slot. It's to showing up for yourself, to doing the work, to staying in the relationship even when it's hard.

That's the container. And it's flexible enough to hold your real life.

You Deserve Therapy That Fits Your Life

If you've been putting off therapy because you can't commit to weekly same-time appointments, I want you to know: your schedule chaos doesn't mean you're not ready for therapy. It doesn't mean you're not committed enough. It doesn't mean healing isn't available to you.

It might mean you need a therapist who understands that structure can look different for different people. Someone who recognizes that flexibility isn't the same as flakiness. Someone willing to meet you where you actually are, not where traditional therapy culture says you should be.

Your life circumstances (your work schedule, your childcare puzzle, your financial juggling) don't disqualify you from healing.

Let's Talk About What Works For You

I work with individuals and couples navigating major life transitions, often folks who are consciously breaking generational patterns and creating relationships and lives that actually fit them. Many of my clients have complex schedules. We make it work.

If you're interested in therapy but worried about scheduling logistics, let's talk. I offer free 15-minute consultations where we can figure out what rhythm actually makes sense for your life and whether we're a good fit to do this work together.

You deserve support that meets you where you are. Your healing matters more than your ability to block off the same hour every week.

Book a free consultation - Let's find a therapy rhythm that actually works for your real life.